Money and Giving for the Thrill of It!

This is a guest blog post by the Reverend Robert Thayer, Minister of the UU Church in Brockton, MA, and author of the popular book  Offerings: Remarks on Passing the Plate, in which this story is published under the title of Large Bills.

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Some years ago I visited England and attended Sunday worship with some British Unitarian friends.  We sat toward the front of the church.  I was all tingly—both from the cold sanctuary and the warm glow of being on my ancestral soil.  The sermon was magnificent, and I was feeling effusive, very generous.

The moment came for the offering.  I reached into my wallet and saw a wad of British pound notes, but nothing particularly small.  I mentally shrugged my shoulders and pulled out a twenty-pound note, held it in my hand, and prepared to drop it in.  My friend shook his head at me.  I raised my eyebrows at him—why not?  He whispered, “It’s a rather large donation.”

I felt indignant.  Who was my friend to tell me I was giving too much.  I flapped the twenty-pound note in the air and whispered, “Are you sure?”

“See the usher?” he asked.  “I know he will be in shock.  He may fall down.  He has never seen a twenty-pound note in a collection except for famine relief in India.”

“Now you have me curious.  Let’s see if you are right,” I responded testily.

“Be mindful,” he warned, “that the usher will ask you after the service if you would like change.”

Well, it did not happen that way.  When I dropped the note in the plate, the usher initially reacted with a frown, but his face soon brightened with a proper smile.  Then I realized something very thrilling.  Because we sat in front, every British Unitarian on our side of the aisle that morning would see that note in the plate.  What an example, I thought.  On second thought, I remembered that since World War II the Brits have had a thorough familiarity with Yanks and many think of us as “over-sexed, over-paid, and over here.”

At the end of the service, I shook hands with the people all around me, including the usher, and gave hugs to my two colleagues who had been in the pulpit that day.  After we walked out into the chill October morning, I looked back into the vestibule and saw the usher take out my note.  He looked outside down the walkway, caught my eye, and said, “Thank you very much.”

Some days you may come to church with only large bills, and even if you make your pledge payment faithfully by mail, you may wonder, what can I give today?  Let the spirit guide you.  I can only say that the one time I surprised the British usher, I felt the thrill of pure joy in the moment when we give and receive our offering.

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On a good many Sunday mornings the offering, given and received, is a ritual that rarely provokes any exceptional notice.  If one morning there is a large bill in the plate those who can see this bill will be amazed and stop, and then be amazed again, think – “Somebody is really …..” Fill in the blank.  The attention is gathered around generosity.

During one Sunday worship in the UU Church in Brockton, MA where I serve as minister, I read this story before the offering.  There were three Brits in attendance–a groom, with his bride, and two of his groomsmen–present because of a wedding ceremony I officiated the day before.  In glancing at the offering plates when they were brought forward to the altar, I glanced down to see a 20 pound note laying on top of one plate.  I picked it up, turned around, faced the congregation, and held up the note.  I joyfully mouthed the words:   Thank You very much!

~Bob Thayer

Offerings:  Remarks on Passing the Plate, by Robert A. Thayer.  2004.  Skinner House Books.  Available for purchase through the UUA Bookstore.   http://www.uuabookstore.org/productdetails.cfm?PC=659

 

               

 

Transcending Language Barriers and Borders

Since February of 2011, Corpus Christi Unitarian Universalist Church has offered a two-hour Sunday afternoon program for English as a Second Language (ESL), Citizenship Test Preparation…and hopefully will include basic computer training this year.

Marilyn Bremser, congregation member, had been teaching these classes at the local library since 2006 but felt that the program could be expanded as an outreach program at our church. Friends with a local Hispanic community activist, Marilyn was invited to attend a “Fuerza Comunitaria” where a collection of local groups, (OSHA, Catholic Charities, insurance companies, etc.) offer free information and guidance to the immigrant community.  At that February Sunday afternoon gathering 23 people signed up to come to our church classes, most speaking no English at all.  With this large number to enroll, the pastor, the Rev. Phil Douglas, enlisted the assistance of the Literary Council whose director is also a church member.

Finding teachers and organizing classrooms in our small church was a challenge but as the year progressed we have settled into five classes: beginning, intermediate and fluency language; citizenship prep and the fifth class is taught by a bi-lingual teacher who kindly assists the more insecure.

We registered about 60 students in 2011.  In December we were able to give certificates to 20 students who studied more than 16 hours with us. Students have been predominantlyfrom Mexico, but others are from Venezuela, Turkey, India, Columbia, Cuba, Nicaragua, Korea, and Taiwan.

The Corpus Christi UU Church pays a young member to help set up the classrooms and to handle the child care.  Three of the volunteer teachers are church members and the other two were recruited through the Literacy Council. Their goal is to encourage students to qualify for enrollment in their local community college (DelMar) and/or to pass the citizenship test. (One student became a citizen in December!)

Clearly, this program offers an excellent opportunity for the Corpus Christi UU Church to be of service and extend their ministry in their wider community, which is made up of sixty-two percent Hispanic people.  This is a congregation committed to ministering to the needs in their local community and transforming lives, one person at a time.

The Corpus Christi UU Church has been one of our Annual Program Fund Honor Congregations for nearly all of the past 25 years.  For more information about the congregation and its ministries:  http://uucorpus.org/

For more information about the UUA’s Annual Program Fund:  www.uua.org/giving/apf

Giving that Transforms

It is better to give than to receive.         

This is a familiar maxim that is generally accepted and experienced as such.    More and more research findings confirm the health and psychological benefits of giving and helping behavior.   In a recent article about the practice of tithing on USAToday.com (http://usat.ly/rS7cxG), Laura Vanderkam writes, New insights from happiness research suggest that tithing could benefit the giver too, even if you don’t believe it’s a religious obligation. Indeed, given how much money people spend pursuing happiness, tithing might be a relative bargain. 

When we reflect upon the memory of a time when we gave a gift that made a difference in another’s life, positive feelings wash over us.  True generosity has the power to transform the lives of the receiver and the giver.

At a recent gathering of congregation leaders, a question was posed to the group for personal reflection sharing.  The entire mood of the room lifted and deepened with heart-warming emotion as each shared his or her story.

Have you ever given a gift that changed you?

Immediately my thoughts go to when I was about six years old.  Our family planned to bring some gifts and outgrown clothing to a poor family in the nearby city.  My parents talked with us about the opportunity to give and engaged us in the process.  My brothers and I found some story books, toys, and clothes we could give away.  We helped our mom buy some new items the family needed and wrapped them in Christmas paper.  On the delivery day, my parents drove us all into the city and brought the gifts to the site where the gifts would be distributed.  That was my first memory of giving with intention to help another family I may never meet.  I remember the excitement at the prospect of bringing a smile to another child’s face.  It was a very empowering that kindled the spirit of generosity in my young psyche that has stayed with me and grown throughout my life.

Ramon Urbano remembers how his parents give him the gift of generosity as well.  “At Christmas time my Mexican parents would take me to Mexico to visit relatives,” says Ramon.  “While we did not have much, we would pack the car to the brim in the trunk, the back seat and floor around me with clothes, blankets and other necessities collected from friends and family.  We would cross the border and find a poor section of town and distribute what we had to people in such tremendous need.  This was after my mother’s relentless arguing with the border officers that were not selling the items and we would not tip them for the privilege!

“This was a tradition I carried on later.”  Ramon continues.  “I worked for an international company with offices throughout Latin America that I visited periodically.  Before my trips I gathered clothes and shoes from friends at church, work, and family and pack them in an Army duffle bag.  I contacted the secretaries at the offices I would be visiting to let them know I had items for them to give to needy families they may know.  All I asked was for them to give me back the duffle bag for me to fill up for the next return trip.”  Ramon offers a summarizing insight. “This simple gift of giving changed me.  I became aware of the importance of generosity.”

Jim Magill recalls a time as a young adult living in a “hippie community.”  He was aware of a young mother in the community, pregnant with her second child and needing a new start.  Somehow Jim managed to scrape together the money to buy the young woman an airplane ticket to Florida, where she planned a new life for herself and her children.  He wonders every now and then how things have gone for the family.  Jim feels deep down his gift made a difference.

Multigenerational communities offer opportunities for all ages to experience the beneficial effects of generosity.  Professional musician and Kindermusik educator Beth Magill engaged her Kindermusik families in giving one holiday season.  One family was struggling and needed help from their wider community.  Beth and the other families enthusiastically rose to the occasion, contributing money for heating oil, arranging for car repairs, and collecting food and other necessities.  The families’ commitment to one another was deepened and transformed through their caring concern and giving.

When  the remnants of Tropical Storm Lee poured water on top of communities already soaked by remnants of Irene resulting in devastating flooding earlier this fall, nearby congregations responded with great generosity and mutual support.Binghamton, NY under flood waters

The Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Binghamton, New York had about four feet of water that flooded a Sunday School room and devastated the room used by a Nursery School. 12 – 15 families in the congregation were severely affected. The Unitarian Universalist Church of Athens and Sheshequin had water in the basement with damage to stored items. The Shesequin building has storm damage that has yet to be assessed. Both congregations are accumulating significant costs for professional clean up and repairs.

Both the Athens and the Binghamton Churches have and are continuing to generously serve their communities as they attempt to recover from the devastating floods. The Binghamton congregation collected and is distributing furnishings to families who lost much or all of their personal belongings, and the Athens congregation provided food at the church for two weeks after the flood and continues to deliver food to the devastated community as it tries to clean up and rebuild. (http://www.ohiomeadville.org/challight/currentclcall )

May this season of generosity bring you meaningful opportunities for transformation through giving and receiving the myriad gifts life has to offer.

Blessed be.